Alcoholism

When I first met him, my husband-to-be was sober and he had sober periods at times afterwards.  As a child, one of my best friends had a father who was a successful member of the Alcoholics Anonymous program; and in high school, we had many visiting speakers who were recovered alcoholics and drug addicts.  At the beginning, I had a lot of faith that recovery was possible for these people.

My previous post wasn't meant to be a detailed explanation of the issues, but only to cover some highlights and to make an outline....  My husband did the best he knew how, and he made improvements in his life over time.  Maybe I could've handled things differently, myself?  I don't know.  I had found the Al-Anon Family Groups program and maybe had too much, or a misguided faith in it...?  I thought if I did my part, my husband would choose to be sober.  But it doesn't always work that way.  

Anyway, we can't change the past.  What's done is done.  I know my former husband supported me over a long period of time with the police issues, even though I didn't know about it, at the time.  The police had actually contacted him and some of his associates at the Christian farm....  

My church doesn't approve of drinking and I don't drink, myself.  I'm sure many members wouldn't be happy to hear that I married an alcoholic...but circumstances can be complicated and I had my own problems....  For now, I wanted to address the story about the couples publicity....  My former husband and I HAVE supported the police, and it was good for us both in some ways except it has been sometimes stressful, also....  My husband passed away and the rest of us are carrying on....