A Light Moment Turned Serious

It seems there's just one more thing I can say about the former adjudicator and me.  It was an issue that I had sort of poked him at a certain point in the original, landlord/tenant hearing.  I've said I teased him...and it was related to the fact that he flirted with me before the hearing....  It's not that I was joking about my case....  We came to a point where it looked like my case wouldn't proceed any further and I almost would've accepted it...but after I "poked" him, the adjudicator [who didn't immediately realize it] gave a speech about gay people; and it helped some details of my case to unravel.  We went on to have a lively discussion about sexual harassment....

Some people have said it wasn't fair for me to use this information...but I disagree....  I wasn't joking about my case, as I said, and the adjudicator wasn't joking about what he said...!  It turned out to be serious evidence [which was a help later on, with transcripts, etc.].

At the time, the adjudicator was mostly a stranger to me...but it happened that he knew something about me previously.  Maybe his feelings were hurt?  I don't know.  And even his flirting was only, or mainly, pretend according to the schemes of the police project....  But even if it had been serious flirting, I was still there in that office for a reason--and he knew my case was going to be a complicated one before he flirted....

The thing is that I've said my landlord/tenant case turned out to be a learning experience for me.  And I don't think I should've been deprived of it because of some kind of loyalty, or supposed loyalty, to a man...?  I've tried to give in and be kind on other points...but I don't want to give in on this....  I don't know if the adjudicator would want me to?--He often seems to be resisting my business in the police project a lot?  But I don't want to give up this point.  Can I agree to disagree...?

When I went to the Ontario Rental Housing Tribunal offices, I had heavy problems on my mind....  My landlady had filed a claim against me and I filed a counter-claim; and I also filed a new claim against her....  I didn't go to the office for flirting.