P.S.

[These are some notes continuing from the two previous posts.]

As I've said, my husband was an untreated alcoholic; and I'd say that I was still dealing with some eating disorder issues when I was married even though I'd had some therapy.  I also had some hang-ups from the school where my husband and I had met....  We both had some dysfunction and we did the best we knew....  We can't change the past and my then ex-husband passed away a number of years ago.

The man who was in charge of the residential school has been a supporter of the police project and of the former adjudicator, the last I heard....  About five years ago, I had some indirect contact with this supporter through the police and I discussed some of my previous problems from the school....  At least I was finally able to understand what the man had been trying to say at the beginning, when I met my husband-to-be....  I more or less understood....  It doesn't change the fact that there WERE problems earlier....  Everyone has their view of things....  And it's pretty much "water under the bridge" now....  I can appreciate that.

The residential school was connected to some somewhat similar but larger schools in the USA and they mostly had a good reputation, I believe.