A Summary of the Landlord/Tenant Matter and Related Issues...

Will try to recap my sexual harassment case and the related matters....  I was renting a basement apartment with my young son, at the time, in a residential neighbourhood and my landlady lived upstairs.  After a short time, she said she found out her apartment was too small for my son and me, and wanted to evict us for "overcrowding..."  However, there was an extra room attached to my apartment which she had more or less agreed to rent to me, but then she changed her mind....  There was also an indirect, sexual solicitation from her which I turned down....  Also, there were different ways of measuring the floor space in the apartment itself and by a generous interpretation--which was allowed by the building department of the city--there were only a few square feet short of the legal requirements....  It was my claim, although I didn't explain it well at the hearing, that my landlady was discriminating against me for not being gay and for not accepting her sexual solicitation....  I believed there were violations under the then-Ontario Human Rights Code, which were prosecutable under the former Ontario Rental Housing Tribunal....

The adjudicator had flirted with me before our hearing began, partly because he was acquainted with me previously...and I mistakenly sent him a few personal letters later on, and I unfortunately tried to discuss my case with him--which I had meant only for personal reasons, at the time....  But he was very upset about my case by that time and was making complaints about me to his work associates and superiors behind my back....  I received a stern letter from an executive in a different city and was confused....  I sent a sexual letter as a joke...and it wasn't received well, of course....  There was a complaint to the police and I later tried to apologize for the joke letter...but there were further complaints to the police....  Then finally, we had a criminal trial...and my landlord/tenant case was used against me with mistaken information....  The adjudicator had erred in law at my landlord/tenant hearing, also, and the entire agency was confused about my case, at the time....  I didn't have good legal representation and was convicted for criminal harassment....

Later on, I learned some of the police had a special project going on to help with LGBT issues....  They had actually wanted my help and I did writing for them....  There was also involvement with the film and TV industries but it was kept very quiet, although some civilians had SOME IDEA of what was going on....  I've found that many local people know SOMETHING, but even the police don't have the entire story, it seems.--There are different groups of police who know different things....

It happened that I believed the adjudicator knew about the police project and I contacted him for business reasons, after I'd been convicted and released from criminal harassment...and I got charged again....  If he knew something, he wasn't admitting anything; and he was still confused about the original problems that happened between us....  So, I've been working on things, for a long time....  The police project got more intense in the meantime, also, and I believe it was for a good purpose....  I haven't had any kind of a contract or definite proof of what was going on--I was going in faith and with some indirect evidence--but I believe things will be revealed, at some point....  This is about all I can say for the time being....  People are welcome to read my blogs....

New Readers

For new readers who are interested in the former landlord/tenant matter, I suggest they go to the Blog Archive in the sidebar and scroll back to the first post in June 2009....  It tells about the landlord/tenant matter and is the beginning of my story....  I think that's the best place to start....  Then, there's also a Label in the sidebar for the landlord/tenant matter....  There are quite a few posts, by now, but people can scroll down and look at the headings that interest them....

My Writing in July--Part 2

Of course there are still a lot of issues to be sorted out...and I didn't mean to stir things up....

What I meant that I've done is I've resolved my side of the criminal matters between the former adjudicator and myself....  I've done a lot of work and I believe I did a good job.  Am happy with the olive branch I've extended and I don't think I could've done any better.  It's just a matter of waiting for a response now, either from the complainant or his associates....  My apologies are about 20 years late, however, that's the only problem!  But I believe some people are reading this blog and I'll hear something back, one way or another....  Also, I've resolved some things in my own mind....

Have mentioned I read a couple books written by psychologists....  I told of one in this blog; and the other book was "The Five Languages of Apology," by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas, who are Christian psychologists....  These books have been a great help to me recently, and it wasn't too long before that I learned about them....  I also read a book called "Boundaries," by Henry Cloud and John Townsend, who also happen to be Christian psychologists....  This book has been a help as well and I need to be more aware of my boundaries [am working on it]....

My Writing in July

Yesterday, my appointment at the mental health agency where I go was good otherwise but I think the worker asked me a trick question on behalf of his police friends...?  He wanted to know if anything was different about my writing in the past month of July...and I said no, except I was happy with the way things were going....  Later, the worker was acting different from usual and seemed to have something on his mind....

It happens that I did notice earlier that I wrote a lot of posts in July....  After reviewing my Archives, it seems I haven't been writing that much since the beginning few years of my blog....  [Anyway, I've deleted a lot of posts and don't remember how many?]

A little while ago, I wrote that I'll just do whatever is necessary...and I've done that....  I was also trying to finish up with the issues in my writing....  So, we'll see how much more will remain...but, myself, I'm not overly concerned about some fluctuations in the amount of my blog-writing....

Around the end of June, my air conditioner broke down and I threw it away--it was too old.  I haven't wanted to put money into a new one, at this point, and it'd be a strain....  The heat is bad, however, since I live in an apartment building....  What I've done is gone to a basement room sometimes, where it's much cooler, and I've had freedom to read and write there....  It's also been free of distractions, for the most part.  I've just had a bare table to work at....  Also, maybe I've tried harder so I could get paid....  [The majority of the police, that I know of, don't believe in the special police project and they don't think I'll get paid....  But we'll have to disagree....]

Well, I hope this post helps some of the police...?  The basic content of this blog hasn't changed, in my opinion....  I think I've been pretty consistent throughout, except I was able to see some errors more clearly towards the end....  I've been increasing my understanding of the issues as I've gone along...and I read a few books by psychologists recently, which helped.... 

Will They Forgive Me?

Do I need to specifically ask for forgiveness, at this point?  In their books, one psychologist said it's not necessary and another one said it is....  I'll go with it....

Again, I'm sorry for all the problems I caused for the adjudicator; and I'd like to know if he and his police and firefighter friends will forgive me?  I've learned a lot of lessons and won't repeat them again.  Can we move forward and put the past behind us?

If the adjudicator and others are still waiting for the false, gay story, I'll say that I don't wish to defend myself any more.  Have already written about it many times before....  There's no point in re-hashing the same details.  I'll just leave the matter in God's hands....

If nothing else happens, maybe the so-called "Number 11" party will come forward?  It might be the right time for them to do that--shortly?  Or will they turn against me for trying to be agreeable to the adjudicator?  Anyway, I've tried to do the right things--finally--to the best of my ability.  It's all I can do.

Financial Matters to Consider

Some police and their friends were asking me earlier why I didn't take better care of my appearance...if I was involved in the special police project?  [My look has been casual.]  And I'll give them the same answer that I gave before...that it costs money!  I've also suggested earlier that they need to give me an advance payment...it'd help.  As it is, I pay for natural, health care treatments--like chiropractic and massage therapy, on a regular basis.  I can't pay for everything, without some help!

Anyway, these police were probably believing the false, gay story about me...!?  But I don't expect to be in public much, myself, as far as the police project goes....

There was a certain police group, which I won't name here, which offered me an amount of money earlier as compensation for my suffering....  They were the ones who removed the first police report from the crown disclosure file in 1999...and other people and I suffered more because of it....  The deal didn't go through, at the time, but I wonder if these police would like to reconsider?  (They could adjust the amount as they see fit?)  It might be a good way to start unraveling my case and to give me an advance payment...?  It'd help me, whether I'm in public much or not?  Well, it's a suggestion....

My Final Position/A.--Part Two

The first time that I met the adjudicator, I believe it was a set-up for the special police project.  He was actually working for the firefighters, who were working for the police....  It turned out the firefighters had a mistaken idea about me, as I've said and have written about somewhere before....  Many of the police also were mistaken by believing the false, gay story about me....

When the police were looking for a female helper to help with the police project, they wanted someone who'd want to earn money....  I've come from humble beginnings and I've wanted to earn money [not that money is the only thing]....  There are issues that still need to be sorted out with my mental health...but it's true that I've had problems....  My employment has been affected in the past....

As a whole, the police and firefighters--men and women--have worked hard in their employment; and they deal with a lot of stress....  Also, their advisors in the police project have been high-functioning people, it seems....  (I don't know very much about the "Irish man," but he has supported the adjudicator, and he said so....)  Myself, I believe it's healthy for me to have respect for these people because of the circumstances; and it's a professional courtesy that I can extend, because I've worked with these people--even if from a distance....

The police and firefighters have had some competition among themselves in the police project, and that's fine....  If it's friendly and good-natured, that's one thing...?  Sometimes, there may've been hostility...?  And I've said I've felt hostile, at times, when I didn't understand the whole story...but I've improved the situation and my attitude....  I hope that in the end, all the police and firefighters and their advisors can have respect for each other, also...?  But no matter what, I'll make an effort to be respectful....